Pastoral conversation comes first
The safest first step is simple: ask Abouna, “I want to repent and learn how confession works. What should I do next?” The priest can explain whether the conversation is counsel, catechetical guidance, preparation for Baptism or reception, or sacramental confession.
Catechumens should ask directly
A catechumen should ask Abouna how confession fits into the path toward Baptism, Chrismation, reception, and Communion. The priest may give spiritual guidance before formal sacramental confession begins, or he may explain the timing according to the person’s situation.
Men and brethren, what shall we do?
Why the distinction matters
Confession is part of the sacramental life of the Church. A person who is still learning should not be left to guess whether a conversation is informal counsel, catechetical guidance, or sacramental confession. The priest can make that clear.
The distinction also protects the seriousness of the mystery. Confession is not a counseling appointment with religious language added. It is repentance before God, received in the Church, with absolution and guidance toward Communion.
Preparing well
Bring honesty rather than a perfect speech. Name the main sins or wounds you are ready to discuss, ask what repentance should look like, and receive the priest’s direction. If the path into the Church is still unfolding, the priest can connect confession to catechesis, Baptism, Myron, and Communion at the proper time.